As others have pointed out, Robin Hood Hashing should be your default hash table implementation. Unfortunately I couldn’t find a hashtable on the internet that uses robin hood hashing while offering a STL-style interface. I know that some people don’t like the STL but I’ve found that those people tend to write poorer interfaces. So I learn from that by not trying to invent my own interface. You can use this hash table as a replacement for std::unordered_map and you will get a speedup in most cases.
In order to reduce name conflicts I call it sherwood_map, because Robin Hood Hashing.